Couples therapy: the same fight, again. Let’s find out what it’s really about.

Depth-oriented couples therapy that looks past who’s right to what each of you is protecting. By secure video for couples in Los Angeles, New York City and anywhere in California, New York and Florida. $275 per 50-minute session.

 

THE LOOP

 

The same fight, in different clothes

 

Most couples who come in aren’t short on communication tips. They’re caught in a loop that both people can describe and neither can stop: one pursues, one withdraws, and the argument about the dishes is never about the dishes.

 

Couples therapy here looks at what each of you brings into that loop: history, fears, family scripts, expectations, and what the relationship is being asked to fix. We work on the conflict in front of you and on what sits underneath it.

 

 

FOCUS

 

What we work on

 

• Recurring conflict that never quite resolves

• Distance, desire and intimacy

• Trust after an affair or rupture

• Big decisions: moving, marriage, children, whether to stay

• Different needs for closeness and space

• Creative and demanding careers

• LGBTQ+ couples and non-traditional relationship structures

 

HOW IT WORKS

 

How couples therapy works here

 

01  Joint consult

A free 15-minute call to see whether we’re a good fit.

 

02  Assessment

One joint session, then usually one individual session with each of you, so I understand what each person brings.

 

03  Weekly joint sessions

50 minutes, $275. Sessions aren’t refereeing. We slow the familiar fight down enough to see what’s underneath it.

 

 

The goal isn’t to decide who’s right. It’s for each of you to understand what you’re actually fighting for.

 

FAQ

 

Frequently asked questions

 

Do we both need to be committed?

No. Many couples start with one person more unsure than the other. That’s part of what we work with.

 

What if only one of us wants to come?

Start with an individual consult. Sometimes that’s where the work begins.

 

Can we do sessions from different locations?

Yes, as long as each of you is in California, New York or Florida during the session.

 

What does it cost?

$275 per 50-minute session. I’m out-of-network and provide superbills.